As one of Hollywood’s most bankable actresses, you’d think having a hit show, a gorgeous husband, and a growing fanbase would land Gabrielle Union on top of the world. But, she’s human and she has concerns and heartaches just like the rest of us. In the October issue of Redbook, Gabby opens up about the challenges she’s faced – in particular, finding time to have children.
“The penance for being a career woman is barrenness,” Gabrielle states provocatively.
For all of the think-piece tug-of-war on whether women can indeed have it all, it often feels like the real world is firmly on the side of “not,” especially when it comes to women who postpone motherhood. A few Gabby spoke candidly about telling Redbook:
“So far, it has not happened for us. A lot of my friends deal with this,” she explains. “There’s a certain amount of shame that is placed on women who have perhaps chosen a career over starting a family younger. The penance for being a career woman is barrenness. You feel like you’re wearing a scarlet letter.”
And on top of that, IVF and a potential baby present their own set of challenges. “The reality is that women are discriminated against in the workplace for being mothers. As much as there are strides being made — you get pregnant, your career takes a hit,” she says. “You can’t have a bad day. Don’t you dare cry at work. Don’t raise your voice. Especially if you’re a black woman in corporate America — now you’re ‘the angry black woman.’”
Read more of Redbook’s feature here.